Addressing Sexual Shame and Building Sexual Confidence with Dr. Uchenna “UC” Ossai | #120

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Sex is an area of life that tends to be filled with shame and secrecy, and Dr. Uchenna “UC” Ossai is having none of that! Through her social media platform, YouSeeLogic, UC provides judgment-free sex education to help folks build more sexual confidence. And in this episode, she's sharing some of her best tips and tricks to help you take it to the next level in the bedroom.

We discussed:

  • UC being forced to rest thanks to having major surgery recently.
  • Who UC is, particularly outside of what she does for work.
  • How not all pelvic health specialists have the same expertise, and UC specifically sought out sexuality training.
  • The role of sexual shame in keeping us from being able to show up fully in our sex lives.
  • Ways dynamics of privilege and oppression show up in the bedroom.
  • How common it is for folks to blame themselves for ways they perceive they're not measuring up sexually.
  • Tools for building sexual confidence.
  • Why sexual communication may feel difficult for folks.
  • The benefits of a willingness to explore, maintain a sense of humor, and be nonjudgmental with your sexual partners.
  • How we each get to define sexiness for ourselves.

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Dr. Uchenna “UC” Ossai (she/her) is the creator and founder of YouSeeLogic, a judgment-free social media platform dedicated to the sex education and empowerment of adults/”Grown Folk.” UC is a board-certified pelvic health physical therapist, an assistant professor at the University of Texas Dell Medical School, as well as an AASECT certified sexuality counselor. Dr. UC believes that everyone deserves a sex life that is positive, affirming, and pleasurable. You can keep up with UC on her website, Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter.

Did you benefit from this episode? You can show your appreciation by supporting UC's work. Check out her Sexy Swagger ebook, and use the code TRUSTME to get a sweet discount!

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