5 Ways Perfectionism Is Stealing Your Joy | #31

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Perfectionism is something I have struggled with since I was a little girl. From the pressures of parents with high expectations to the competitive settings of music school and law school, I am no stranger to the harms of a perfectionist nature.

Whether you're a perfectionist yourself or you have people in your life who are struggling, it can be helpful to understand more about the motivations behind perfectionism. That's why I break down five specific ways that perfectionism can steal your joy, including:

  1. Perfectionism causes you to internalize and moralize the perfectionist worldview.
  2. It's easy to convince yourself that the only person your perfectionism is harming or hindering is yourself, but that's not true.
  3. Perfectionism creates an all-or-nothing, black-and-white mentality that doesn't reflect the real world.
  4. While perfectionism can feel like it's mostly about how you view yourself, it's actually fueled by a fear of how other people view you.
  5. Perfectionism will lead you to believe that you have to do everything by yourself.

For each of these five harms, I provide tools and strategies for letting go of your perfectionist tendencies. The key is to remind ourselves that mistakes aren't necessarily a reflection of the kinds of people we are inside. To be human is to be imperfect, and that doesn't make us less worthy of love or respect.

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Shohreh Davoodi (she/her) is the host of the Conjuring Up Courage podcast. Shohreh is a self-trust coach, a bit of a mind witch, and a rainbow glitter bomb of a human. Through her content and coaching, she helps people develop their consciousness, care, and courage practices so they can be more of who they are (and less haunted by who they think they're supposed to be). When she's not working, Shohreh enjoys exploring the great outdoors, playing with her two pups, crafting, trapezing, gardening, and baking. Find Shohreh on her websiteInstagramTikTokPinterest, and Facebook.

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