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We discussed:
- Who Eva is and what they’re passionate about.
- The super-duper ally phase that many queer folks go through.
- Common sexual scripts and rules that can hold people back.
- Sexual compatibility.
- Sexting and privacy concerns.
- How to get started with dating as a baby queer in particular.
- Why sexual experience isn’t everything.
- The importance of communication for casual sexual encounters.
- Not expecting sexual partners to be able to read your mind.
- Other ways to find out what partners like besides asking “What do you like?”
- How you can start to learn what kinds of sexual touch you enjoy through self-exploration.
- What queerness is to Eva.
Mentioned in This Episode
- Erica Smith
- Purity Culture and Sexual Health with Erica Smith | #5
- Compulsory Heterosexuality (aka CompHet)
- Bridgerton TV show
- The Hays Code
- I May Destroy You TV show
- Crazy Ex-Girlfriend Period Sex song
- Honey Play Box
- Gabrielle Alexa
- Private Photo Vault app
- Bumble dating app
- HER dating app
- Girl Sex 101 by Allison Moon
- OMGyes
- Beducated
Featured in This Episode
Eva Bloom (she/they) is a queer sexuality educator and sex science communicator. They aim to break down the rigid scripts around sexuality and affirm marginalized individuals to build their most authentic sex lives, feel at home in their identities, and have confidence in navigating their sexual health. She is the creator of the digital sexual wellness program, “F*ck the Patriarchy, F*ck Yourself” and the YouTube web series,”What’s My Body Doing.” In her spare time, Eva loves dancing her heart out and reading every sapphic YA novel they can get their hands on. You can keep up with Eva on her website, Instagram, and YouTube channel.
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