The Girl Gang Gets Unladylike Again | #70

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One episode wasn’t enough for The Girl Gang to cover all the unladylike topics in the world, so we decided to do a second one. Like the first round, this episode gives a big ol’ middle finger to the patriarchy and all of the bullshit that goes with it. Please join us as we channel our collective rage into humor and real talk.

We discussed:

  • The ridiculous expectations placed on women and femmes regarding body hair.
  • Our various hair removal and hair growing experiences.
  • The value in experimenting with your body hair to see what works for you.
  • How unnecessary it is to judge people for their clothing choices.
  • Wearing “flattering” clothes and “dressing for your shape.”
  • Sexist school dress codes and dressing “slutty.”
  • The thin privilege of being able to wear athleisure, messy buns, etc.
  • Keeping your opinions about other people’s clothing to yourself.
  • The bullshit idea that tattoos and piercings somehow make you less “feminine.”
  • The shame we’re taught to feel for masturbating or buying sex toys.
  • The fact that you don’t have to do sexual acts or positions that you don’t like or that don’t feel good.
  • How we’re only shown vulvas and breasts that look a certain way in media and porn.
  • The torture chambers that are push-up bras.
  • The choice to be child-free, which all three of us have made for ourselves.
  • How if you’re going to have a kid you better be prepared to love them no matter what.

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The Girl Gang is made up of Shohreh Davoodi, host of the Conjuring Up Courage podcast, as well as two of her closest friends, Tiffany Cunningham and Ally Ridnour.

Headshots of Shohreh, Tiffany, and Ally in a row,

Shohreh (she/her) was the host of the Conjuring Up Courage podcast during the show’s three-year run. Currently, Shohreh is focusing her attention on being a writer and creator. You can keep up with Shohreh by subscribing to her newsletter, The Queer Agenda, and following her on Instagram and TikTok.

Tiffany (she/they) is a graphic designer, aerial enthusiast, fanfic author, cat mom, gay fairy gothmother, and bisexual human disaster. An actual Austin, Texas native, she’s been keeping her hometown weird long before it was cool. She is proud to be friends with Shohreh, and their friendship has grown through their shared passions for aerials and pop punk, mental health struggles, and experiences as queer women thumbing their noses at the patriarchy. You can find Tiffany on Instagram.

Ally (she/her) is an aerialist, a horror movie enthusiast, and a proud member of the Girl Gang. She has been described as “actually a trench coat filled with snakes and chaos” as well as “literally a demon,” and she feels those are pretty accurate descriptions. When she’s not busy filling every space she encounters with chaotic energy, she can probably be found laughing about farts or giving long-winded speeches about her weird taste in music to unappreciative audiences. She has a lot of opinions. You can find Ally on Instagram.

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